Because it’s still a bit of a grey area when you think about whether the fact that your spouse is sexting and having virtual affairs online could mean you’re actually being cheating on, one has to tread a bit carefully.
A lot of people consider having virtual affairs harmless, but are they?
The truth is that a far greater majority of people do feel betrayed and cheated on by the sexual nature of certain online ‘conversations’. They in fact feel that their spouse may as well be carrying on an affair in the ‘real’ world.
There’s no doubt that some people feel that the marriage vows or commitments made to each other are being violated by an online affair, even though there’s no physical contact
Even though there’s no physical contact involved in an online affair, the innocent spouse still feels that the vows that brought them and their partner together have been violated anyway, despite a lack of physical contact.
Virtual affairs can include things like exchanging sexually explicit photos on a mobile phone, or, sexually explicit exchanges via email. For a large majority of people, virtual sexually and romantically explicit affairs create a sense of betrayal that can be every bit as deep as it could if the affair were on the physical level.
Signs your partner is indulging in secret online cheating and sexting:
Noticeable changes in behaviour
A good tell-tale sign that may indicate your spouse is cheating online will be if there are noticeable changes in the way your spouse normally behaves. No doubt about it, guilt about sexting or involvement in an online affair could lead to two extremes in behaviour; either your spouse becomes unusually attentive, or, he or she withdraws completely. If asked if something is going on you can expect anger as a defence.
Mobile devices that are now password protected
If you and your spouse have had an open relationship where it comes to cell phones and other devices and you’re suddenly locked out by new passwords and pins, it’s a red flag you should take note of.
If emails are closed hastily or web pages quickly shut down when you come into the room, it may be time to ask the hard questions about whether or not your spouse is cheating online.
New social media accounts kept secret
If you suspect that something is going on, keep an eye out for secret social media accounts in the name of your spouse, or, if you’re a friend of your spouse, keep an eye out for contacts you don’t recognise. Remember, a virtual affair a social media site won’t reflect in timelines, but messages on these platforms are private to the account holder.
Unusual instant responses to online contacts
When answering emails and texts immediately suddenly becomes an obsession with your spouse, you may need to listen to what your sixth sense is telling you.
Millions are addicted to cell phones, laptops and/or computers, so this isn’t necessarily a sign you’re being cheated on, it’s just when the behaviour changes that you may want to pay attention.
Can you face the truth
If online cheating, flirting and sexting falls into the category of cheating for you, there’s no doubt that the double life your spouse is living between you and the virtual affair will ultimately bring pain into your relationship.
It would then be better for you to confront the issue head on, so that your spouse knows that what crosses the line into a full-fledged online affair is just one small step away from the real thing as far as you’re concerned.
If you’re strong enough to want the truth and you suspect that your spouse is cheating, hire a reputable cheating spouse detective in South Africa by contacting King Investigators for a confidential chat.
Though this will not be an easy call to make, you will at the very least, be dealing with private investigators who’ll treat you and your case with the utmost sensitivity you deserve under the circumstances!